By Derrick Lane
BlackDoctor
https://blackdoctor.org/
Sex advice has come a long way from whispered conversations and awkward questions exchanged between friends. Today, women have more access than ever to information about sexual health, pleasure and relationships—but having a trusted friend who can talk openly and honestly about sex still matters.
Whether you’re navigating a new relationship, trying to communicate your needs to a partner, or simply learning more about what makes you feel good, a sex-positive friend can be an invaluable source of encouragement. She’s the friend who reminds you that asking questions isn’t embarrassing, your pleasure matters, and there’s no reason to feel ashamed of your sexuality.
Of course, your friend isn’t a substitute for a healthcare professional or a qualified sex educator. But having someone you trust who can help you feel comfortable talking about sex can make it easier to advocate for yourself and explore what a healthy, satisfying sex life looks like for you.
Here are a few reasons why every woman could benefit from having a sex-positive friend in her corner:
Your sex life will never get stale.
Having a friend who is sexually aware is like having your own sex guru within reach. Sure, she may not know everything there is to know about sex, but she knows enough to be able to guide you in the direction of sexual satisfaction. So don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed to reach out to her for some sexy tips. She is your BFF after all.
You have proof that these sex tips actually work.
Typically, when one reads a self-help book or online articles on sex advice, it can be difficult to judge whether the tips given by experts will actually work until they are applied. But with first-hand accounts from someone you trust, putting these tips to use will be less intimidating.
You have great motivation to get it right.
Your sexually aware girlfriend loves you so much that she wants you to experience the amazing feeling an orgasm brings with it. What better motivation to improve your sex life than to have your best friend keeping you charged up and giving you another source of permission to enjoy sex the way you deserve.
You have a great sex positive role model.
Sex can be intimidating for many women, especially when positive messages about female sexual pleasure have rarely been present throughout their lifetime, but that issue can be remedied by having a friend in your life who can serve as a role model for owning your sexy and claiming your sexual satisfaction. Your friends are here not only to make you laugh and be there during hard times but also to push you to be the best being you can be; that includes owning your sexuality.
So if you don’t have a sex positive friend in your life, it’s time that you find yourself a woman who can fill those shoes. Hey, you just might be that sex-positive role model in your group of friends, waiting to become the teacher. Make a commitment to become educated about sexuality to maintain a well-balanced lifestyle. You deserve it.
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi and the all-new “Glamazon Tyomi’s Sex Academy” radio show here
