On this past week, I moderated a panel discussion that included some of the most brilliant women that were physicians and medical professionals. There was one word that I continuously stumbled and slaughtered\u2014 \u2018obstetrics\u2019. For the life of me, I couldn\u2019t get it out of my mouth correctly. Instead of being embarrassed, I owned my mistake. Even with a PhD, I don\u2019t know everything, can\u2019t do everything, and still realize how much I don\u2019t know. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
A dear friend reminded me of my challenge when she posted that as a public speaker, she messed up recently as well by saying \u201cum\u201d repeatedly. Mistakes happen. We don\u2019t always do our best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I\u2019ve gotten older, I don\u2019t feel the need to be embarrassed by my faults and failures. I\u2019m human and I make a lot of mistakes. Some of them I\u2019m aware of and others are brought to my attention. Instead of hiding behind shame or my ego, I learn from it, do better and move on. I\u2019ve learned how to give myself grace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a young adult, I didn\u2019t have the wisdom to understand the unrealistic expectations I was placing on myself to get everything right and as a result, I set the bar high for others. I didn\u2019t extend grace to myself, and others were not given the grace to fail or do better, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a society, I find that we want grace for our errors, but we are not as compassionate with others who fail. I\u2019ve been guilty of this, too. I want to be forgiven but so often, I might be reluctant to forgive as quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My daughter just turned 21 years old, the same age as Sha \u2018Carri Richardson.
As I look at my daughter discovering her voice and vision, I realize that she has so much still to learn. She\u2019s witnessed and experienced a lot in her short time on the planet and there is so much more she will go through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Despite her brilliance, she has made choices and decisions that have raised my eyebrow and my blood pressure at times. She\u2019s young. I often remind her that some of the wisdom you gain isn\u2019t in books, it\u2019s through living and in 21 years, there is still a lot of learning, living, loving, laughing and loss that she will experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I saw Sha \u2018Carri trending on Twitter coming in last in the 100-meter race and withdrawing from the 200 meter, the posts that followed were not only appalling but laced with so much mean-spiritedness. They harped on her previous comments failing to recognize what this young woman has endured. They failed to realize that despite her talent, she still has a life ahead of her filled with more growth and life lessons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They didn\u2019t give her grace. They only saw her problems and failed to see the possibilities and potential within. Maybe it\u2019s because we reflect to others what exists within us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m so grateful that God doesn\u2019t treat us the way we treat others. I\u2019m glad that God has expectations for our lives and yet, recognizes our weakness and that we will fail and fall short (Romans 3:23). Sometimes repeatedly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s interesting that in the story of the woman at the well in John 4:1-3 (MSG) the Pharisees \u201cwere keeping count of the baptisms that he and John performed (although his disciples, not Jesus, did the actual baptizing). They had posted the score that Jesus was ahead turning him and John into rivals in the eyes of the people.\u2026\u201d Instead of focusing on improving themselves, they created mess\u2014a typical technique of distraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jesus leaves and goes to Samaria where he encounters a woman at the well. In their conversation, Jesus reveals his awareness of her multiple husbands and current in-house lover. He doesn\u2019t condemn her for this. Jesus says to her (John 4: 23-24 MSG), \u201cIt\u2019s who you are and the way you live that count before God. Your worship must engage your spirit in the pursuit of truth. That\u2019s the kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship\u2026\u201d Could it be that our blessings are limited because we are not honest with ourselves which impacts our worship and relationship with God?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If we are honest, much of the rhetoric we are seeing is not necessarily about the confidence of Sha \u2018Carri. It\u2019s interesting that Muhammad Ali did the exact same thing in talking about his ability as a strategy to deal with the media and his opponents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The rhetoric today is really about a society that relishes in the failure of others, that fails to see their own inadequacies and prefers to place athletes on pedestals than to realize that they are human.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Give the girl some grace\u2026.<\/p>\n\n\n\n